Progress Report: May 5, 2012
I have made progress in regards to abstaining from masturbation. I can now go about 3 weeks on average without giving in. My goal is now to at least go an entire month so I can use that sexual energy towards my work. I am not quite sure why, but I seem to get a sexual urge every couple of weeks. It's hard to deal with because they come out of nowhere, and I seem to act impulsively instead of taking a deep breath and riding it out. Read more...
One Year Without Crossdressing
Today marks a one year anniversary of the day I stopped crossdressing for good. I thought I would take the chance to reflect on what I've learned. Certainly, I have had my ups and downs. Even just a few weeks ago I felt like crossdressing again. But I believe that was because my sexual energy was continuing to build because I wasn't channeling it in productive ways. I was also socially isolated way to often, which sometimes has lead to me indulging in sexual fantasies. Read more...
Fitness Classes
Over the past two weeks, I have been attending various fitness classes down at the local recreation center. I would have done this way earlier, but I just found out about them recently. I did aerobics, Zumba, kickboxing, cycling, and a class called "Megaburn". I did the latter two days ago, and my ab muscles are still very sore. Anyway, I did these classes over a two-week span. I did not experience one sexual urge, and I never had any sexual thoughts. Read more...
Crossdressing Worldwide
Being an internet marketer, I check site statistics quite regularly. One that fascinates me is the breakdown of the countries where the site visitors reside. As you might expect, most are right here in the United States. As I scoured the list, I was astounded at just how many countries were represented, some of which I have never heard of. To think that at least one person from Tanzania, Cyprus, and Mauritania visited my blog just makes it all worth it in the end. Big picture: men all over the world struggle with crossdressing. Read more....
Thoughts on New Design?
A bit off topic, but what does everyone think of the new design/color scheme? Do you like the black or white background more? Any feedback, good or bad, is welcomed. I would also like to know if anyone has suggestions on how to make this site better. Would anyone be interested in having a forum on here? Comment
Asexuality
As I was doing research this week on transvestic fetishim, I came across the term asexuality. I wasn't familiar with it, so I started to investigate. Very little time passed before I realized that I fit the mold of someone who is asexual. Essentially, this terms refers to anyone who doesn't experience sexual attraction to either sex. I actually felt relieved after I found this out, as all my life I have never felt the need to have sexual intercourse with anyone. Read more...
Balancing Sexual Energy
Awhile ago, I wrote on the subject of sexual transmutation, which in essence talks about the importance of conserving and channeling sexual energy. While I have worked to conserve energy, I have been lagging in the channeling department. Why? I am not sure, but I realize now why I may have been experiencing so many urges in the last week or so. Read more...
What Caused Us To Crossdress From The Beginning?
I have done quite a bit of introspection this week as I contemplated the idea of crossdressing again. I think that stopping is the right decision for me, but the persistent desire I felt this week make me question my beliefs. Whether you believe that crossdressing is the way to go or not, I think that questioning ourselves is necessary. Reflecting on our lives on a regular basis will help us grow and become the best we can be. Read more...
Reasons Why I Don’t Crossdress
I believe that documenting why you want to stop crossdressing is key to stopping permanently. At some point, we all get tempted to do it again. We need reasons to remind us why we are dedicated to life without crossdressing. Once we are reminded, we can shift our thinking from that of women's clothing to what we want to accomplish. I just used this approach recently, and it completely changed my thought process. Read more...
Life is Difficult
I am currently reading a book entitled The Road Less Traveled, and the first line of the book is "life is difficult". The author goes on to explain that once we accept this truth, then life is no longer difficult. Once this has been accepted, then the fact the life is difficult no longer matters. I tend to view life as a game, where we have to overcome a series of challenges to accomplish goals that we have set for ourselves. Read more....
Developing A Plan
A revelation I had awhile back was to develop a plan or system that I could turn to in the tough moments. The plan has reminders of why I am trying to abstain, plus steps that will help me get through these times. I am not sure why I didn't think of this before, but it has been effective so far. Read more...
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